Women, men, marriage, family and parents

Every day somebody from the past keeps on coming. But the Judge story is more interesting. He was forced to marry by his father and mother. You can barely imagine in India how much a wife must have suffered. When husband is not talking and for years and years and years are passing.

I said: “Pay her proper respect – and not only respect: love and respect, and go”. She was visiting her parents at that time. But I must say that she is a great lady. She never complained even once. He went there, said sorry, she said all right and came with him. Now they have a five-year-old son. Very intelligent, very bright. And she is a very good lady – to suffer like that and to be able to forgive him. And again she is living with him normally. That is fantastic. I mean very, very rare.

And she is very simple and honest. She has come here two, three times with him. I think after this she began to respect me as well.

She is happy to look after him and to get the proper respect from the husband. I think that is enough.

Sometimes it is very difficult for a yogi to adjust with the society and with his families. Because the experiences you start to have, you have no one to discuss to at the family. And when they will ask what you do, what you experience and then you will say that light appears and this happens, nobody will believe you, they will think you are going mad. But in reality you are going normal, you used to be mad. And this they will never realize that. That is funny. And also it is the very moment of truth that inside this flesh and blood so much beautiful light and so much the light of God, so much is there inside, which one rarely gets to see.

No matter how much we talk about good things, still every person understands that Searching for a true Guru is not at all without dangers for a lone woman. Today we all see. Who will you trust? So in the Kriya Yoga tradition At least any woman with her father, son, husband, uncle, maternal uncle and brother, she can learn Yog Vidya by coming with them. There is no dearth of qualities in women for practicing Yoga and their progress is also very high. One other aspect that is stated in our tradition is that That when Lord Shiva first appeared, he appeared in the form of Ardhanarishwar.

After that we see that women continued to be severely insulted. in society This is the teaching of Guru Maharaj, Baba Ji Maharaj That by insulting and disrespecting half of Shiv's body We can never please Shiv. He treated both men and women equally and Gave this Kriya to Yog Vidya to both. I have another thing to say that from this very moment onwards The era of democracy was established in the society by Guru Maharaj Baba Ji Maharaj. If he wanted, he would call a king or a prince and make him his disciple. Get the work done through him. But he did not. Instead He called a very ordinary person socially. And made him a great yogi. At whose doorstep great kings and emperors came and bowed.

What are your thoughts on Pani Grahan Sanskar ? I have very good thoughts about it. I will share my thoughts with you all. Panigrahan - Hand is called Paani, Panigrahan means shaking hands. Okay and if we look at Hindu marriage then whatever is there in the entire process of marriage, That is nothing but a pledge of lifelong friendship. Whatever Vows are made, on behalf of the bride and groom, we will always support each other through thick and thin. Other than this, our scriptures say that if you take seven steps together after witnessing the fire, then your relationship of lifelong friendship is established.

So I wish so because I am a wishful person. If we Hindus understand that marriage is not a transaction or donation of a thing, Because we consider the girl as a commodity and donate her, that is not the case. This handshake is for lifelong friendship, so you are getting a friend for life, which is a very big blessing from God. Let me give a classical example here. Read Valmiki Ramayana. When Ramchandra and Sugriva met So Ramchandra ji and Sugriva took Agni as witness and Gave promise of friendship for life to each other. So if we look at it in that context then the Hindu Marriage is what you also call Panigrahan ceremony,

it is a relationship of lifelong friendship. The relationship between husband and wife begins from that day and this is how I see it. I have seen hundreds of thousands of husbands and wives. Those husbands and wives who had great friendship with each other there is no marriage more successful than them So friendship, lifelong friendship, Open friendship, intimate friendship, sincere friendship is the soul of our PaniGrahan ceremony. We should think about this and also fulfill it. Only Friendship is fulfilled. So do it Any incident in your life that touched your heart ? We used to ride bicycles in Gwalior There was a puncture wala (repairman of bicycle)

He also used to do overhauling of bicycle. Used to take ₹12 and fix punctures too. Those husband and wife had such a great tuning that I have never been able to find anyone else, except only one or two cases. They were very fond of films. So they used to talk by singing songs. As we enjoyed their good conversation, we used to go there and sit near them, He used to wear striped underwear and sando vest and used to work. And we used to sit and listen to their talks, he used to sing songs. The guest of ours is dearer than life. ("Mehmaan jo hamaara hota hai. Woh jaan se pyaara hota hai") Hey Kallu's mother, just make two cups of tea. Well, or as we are sitting, she is going to buy vegetables with a bag, his wife He knew that she was going to buy vegetables but still he used to sing.

Stars wrapped around the body. Where is Kallu's mother going?("Badan pe sitare lapete hue, O Kallu ki amma kidhar ja rahi ho) So She also used to respond to him by singing, so it felt so good to go there. It was just fun to sit there and see I wish that all the husbands and wives of Bharat were like this. May romance remain in their lives, may a poetic touch come into their lives, A sense of humor comes into their lives and they become an example of strong friendship. I wish this only.

I have seen lots of people who actually treats their wives as person. The moment she is married to you, you think she is your property. You should continue to treat her as a person. And another point I have noticed in so many marriages when you are proposing or going someone that that she should marry you are always at the best of your behavior. You are welld dressed all like a ki. Yes. But after marriage this thing changes. So for a very successful marriage you should always remain at the best of your babies. It goes for ladies also. Think on that. I feel so happy.

How to help your uh close ones to reach God to get closer to God. If they don't want to listen to anything you say, they think fairy [clears throat] tales and >> don't don't give them any stories you develop yourself and reach God and put a good word about them to God. That will help them directly. That is the easiest way. And don't talk too much with family member. They will take you to some psychiatrics for treatment, to some mental doctor for treatment.

TO DISCOVER THE REAL POWER OF A WOMAN

Yesterday I read about the power of divinity…

Guruji: And divinity itself is a female-gender word according to grammar.

Is it written that yogis attain samadhi to stop the feeling of the influence of femininity on them?

Guruji: No; yogis always respect them. Every religion is condemning them; some monks in India condemning ladies as “door to hell”, even in christaianity there was a discussion whether the girls have the soul or not. But yogis were always respecting them.

But as long as blood flows in everybody’s veins – the influence of women will always remain: that’s why yogi's need to go into samadhi?

Guruji: Only to discover the real power of a woman! A fish, who is swimming in the water, never sees the water until it comes out of the water. So to understand the power of a woman – you need to go into samadhi. As I have said before: the power of the woman is sleeping behind your navel. We need to awaken the woman, who is sleeping there – and the creation will bring about you.

In Devi Bhagavatam there is a description for a girl: that who will have a very virtuous life – they will be with Shakti together.

Guruji: Yes, but this is not heaven! It’s Shakti’s abode: no man is allowed there. That means heaven for a woman – where there is no man (laughing).

But it is said that every realized man achieves the state of Shiva and for the woman – state of Shakti?

Guruji: Then they will merge together and become Ardhanarishwar. Also it’s a biological fact that for the first three months, when you were inside your mother – you were a girl. So we are all starting our careers as females. You cannot run away from yourself.

BRIEF REMARKS

what do You think about Gandhari?

Guruji: she was very powerful. She was able to curse Krishna himself. She was the great devotee of Shiva – that was enough. Being devotee of Shiva might be a sign that she secretly was doing something. Simply looking on her son Duryodhana she was able to turn his body into diamond body. She was great siddha.

that strong decision that she take – to remain blind because of her husband?

Guruji: maybe the power was already there –whomsoever she will see the body will turn into diamond body – who knows?

64 yoginis were humans in the beginning?

Guruji: no, they were created like that. They are serving Shiva and Shakti only.

how to live it with the family? They are meat-eaters?

Guruji: that is the surest way for you to become a paramahamsa. Your karmas following you. So feed them – then eat yourself whatever you want. When you’re cooking – you can cook for them then you can cook for yourself. It’s not a big problem. Man just running outside and making money – but woman runs home.

when shaman is initiated, in astral world his body cut into pieces and all his bones are thrown into netherworld – what’s the reason for it?

Guruji: it could be that, because taking the different body parts of him they will be able to control his ghost or spirit, to save him from them. That is the main consent for them.

must we mention the signs?

Guruji: which signs?

for example – I must go somewhere but something happens with my spine and I just cannot leave the home?

Guruji: of course – it means you were saved from something terrible. Take it as a sign of good luck, not of bad luck. If they’re happening – you cannot ignore them. If signs are appearing – then how you can ignore them? You have to consider them.

black cat is considered as a bad luck all over the world?

Guruji: but not for the yogis – if she crosses your way from right to left. When you’re practicing in the right way – the whole nature will support you.

WOMAN IS MAN’S SUCCESS

As it has been said, a man’s progress depends on the woman – near him or supporting him or blessing him.

Many people – they think they are spiritual by ignoring and demeaning women, but I defer here. Babaji knew that: that the nearness and the good will and support of a woman is extremely important for spiritual growth. That’s why he shared Kriya yoga with householders. Because a woman is always near: it may be your wife, your mother, your daughter, your sister, your auntie, your grandmother… one cannot call himself very highly developed spiritually if he continues to ignore half of the world population without getting their good will and blessings. Think deep on this point!

And no matter how great a man becomes – he will always be the son of his mother, you must remember that.

in no religion women are respect

Guruji: in Hinduism they are respected. But in others is still discussed – have the women souls or not.

muslims are saying that only men are coming to heaven

Guruji: well, then if all the men are in heaven – the hell become the heaven for women. Even hell can become heaven.

why it is more important that woman accept man as a friend and not vice versa?

Guruji: the woman’s feeling is more important here. They stand to suffer more than men. Every men is ready to accept woman as a friend, only superficially.

but it can be the situation when woman accepted man as a friend but he has some thoughts about her?

Guruji: then it is always mutual. But in the mutual understanding, woman, accepting man as a friend, is more important: then always friendship is mutual. You can see: only women are working in my kitchen. And I haven’t talk with them since they are working here.

And you will get the opportunity to make your personal choice? Not your family choice? For example like your unchanged choice.

Guruji: That is a serious question. Because your personal choice may be a reaction of a certain situation and family memory. Your whole body is a family memory, your genetics or DNA memory. So even if you will make a temporary choice thinking that you are making a right choice, maybe in the long run it will create many problems. So it is always a good idea an advice to consult some senior people. If you are in a situation they have had more experience. And that doesnt mean that you should follow whatever they say. But discussing with them will make your thoughts very clear. Then this is what we need to make a right decision. Because most of the people I have seen they react to a certain temporary situation and they make a big decision. And then they spend their time in remorse. I mean, thinking “Oh my God, I did a mistake”. So it is always a good idea to discuss someone senior who is also your well wisher.

Is it possible to, for example, in process of Kriya yoga?

Guruji : Kriya yoga will actually make your mind very powerful. And it will develop your consciousness to extraordinary levels. And you will actually know many things. And you will learn to respect senior people's senior wisdom. And you will stop reacting on temporary situations.

Stop reacting?

Guruji: I mean, they are temporary. So they will pass.

THE WAY TO GOD

How to help your close ones to reach God, to get closer to God, if they don't want to listen to anything you say, they think that’s fairy tales?

Guruji: Don't give them any storage. You develop yourself and reach God and put a good word about them to God. That will help them directly. That is the easiest way. And don't talk too much with family members. They will take you to some psychiatrist for treatment, to some mental doctor for treatment.

RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN A MAN AND A WOMAN

Well, there are situations in life.

You need to tend them very tenderly,

And you should not pretend when you are tending.

What is the relationship between a man and a woman?

Most of the people take it for sex or for husband and wife, for lovers.

But a man needs a mother, he needs a grandmother, he needs a sister, he needs a daughter, he needs a niece, he needs a mother-in-law; all are ladies.

Same with girls:

They need a father, they need a brother, they need an uncle, they need a grandfather, they need a son, they need a nephew, they need a father-in-law, all are men.

So the relationship between man and woman is not one-pointed. It has got so many different angles.

So wherever we are discussing man and woman relationships, we need to consider every type of relationship which is available in the world. Then your mind will have some glimpse of hope and wisdom.

Thank you.

BLOOD LINE

what is the danger of bastard?

Guruji: they say that bloodline continuation is very important. Bastard is the very big problem: the family will lose its prosperity, new blood will enter into the family line – it creates so many complications, for the spirits of ancestors also. Effect goes to that level also. All Mahabharat battle was because of this.

Love & Sex

Yogi is recommend vegetarian diet. No meat eating, no eggs, nothing. Because if you start eating meat so much DNA memories of that particular animal will mix up in your system and that will directly affect your mind. So to remain pure you need to be vegetarian – nothing will come enter your system and spot it. That is one thing.

And about sex – I think creator create the sexual world. Many religions are said that sex is sin but the yogi’s opinion here is: if you’re having sex with a partner whose heart you have not won over – then that sex may called sin. If there is genuine love and a heart has been win over - then it’s divine thing. It is for you to analyze, that the sex which you’re having is mutual genuine love or just a physical contact. And you will understand it. If it is sex in deep love – you will feel great after it. And if is just a physical thing – deep depression will follow it. That is the criteria. This is what I think.

Love is very important here. And humanity need to discover it. And if you look back in the history – humanity made most of the genuine lovers suffer. Maybe they are jealous to their love because they can not feel it themselves. But there is always hope for everybody to discover love in their life. I wish them luck.

I knew one couple – I think they are no more now and I was young. They discovered love after 20 years of their marriage – you never know when it will click. They had children, but suddenly one day they discovered love. Happiness begin after 20 years of their marriage. This is the biggest miracle – to fall in love each other after so much years together.

people discover the love as a feeling but is it possible to find the answer in words?

Guruji: of course, why not. Words are very important thing – we should take them seriously and find their true meaning.

Practice and relatives

If you’re practicing yoga – it means you become much-much better person, your mind will be much more stronger. As a better person with strong mind you will be in a situation to help them. But in the beginning they may be feel confronted. Nobody will agree or accept the fact that you’re developing more than them. That point actually creates some confronting situations. You have to be very carefully, delicately and highly diplomatically. That’s why we ask you to keep it a secret. Otherwise they will be disturb you – what happened to him.

but they see, that something changes

Guruji: of course they will begin to see the change from the day one. Continue to behave normally – that’s it.

is it true, that if relatives care about person – they took his good karmas and if they confronted they take his bad karmas or not?

Guruji: no, good karma will remain with you and bad karma go away. But it’s good idea not to disturb them.

Until unless somebody ask on your opinion – never express it. That’s the main thing you need to do.

And if they need help and you’re in the situation to help – please help. For this you don’t need to wait – I will help only if they asked; sometimes people are shy or they don’t accept it need to help – it is up to you to observe if they need help – to help. But never express your opinion – that’s the main point.

maybe out practice somehow help our relatives to develop spiritually?

Guruji: it is believed that those who living on surroundings and they will tolerate the initial development – they will be benefited by your presence. And your ancestors will be very happy. Three generations from father’s side and four from mother’s side – mothers are very important.

if I have protection of You – my relatives has protection too or not?

Guruji: only if you have good will for them – then only.

if I give vibhuti …

Guruji: for whom?

for my son

Guruji: it’s ok. Son is son – he’s not relative. With so much relatives you will become paramahamsa.

HUSBAND AND WIFE

They lived in very small village with no water – so we arranged water also there; also we helped him with a marriage – because it’s expensive for a poor man; but they are very good people. His son – snake charmer - got married to another snake charmer’s daughter. They came to me for blessings: they was very good looking couple – she was hardly 15 and he was 18-19. And the boy asked me: Guruji, how should I keep my wife?

On the spur of the moment I answered: you should take care of your wife like a scabbard takes care of the sword. Remember, no matter how sharp a sword is – it never cuts its own scabbard. Your wife is like a Shakti to you, you should protect her like a scabbard protects a sword – and when the time will come, the sword will protect you.

They are happily married, now he’s proud father of 6 children in the last 18 years – so I think everything is going well.

Most of the animals are the great emotional beings. They have great feelings.

is it necessary for yogi to have children?

Guruji: if you want. It’s your decision. When a woman see the man, and from the heart she has the feeling, that she must save this genetic record. If you find such a man, why not. If no – no.

but at the time of pregnancy the body changes…

Guruji: but you continue to do the same practice. The baby will have the all benefits. Everybody is waiting for the savior, but I think that women are true saviors. They are saving the genetic records. In old books everybody is saying about saving of mankind, nobody is talking about saving the womankind, because they are saviors themselves. Every man, even he is dedushka, acts like a baby. And every woman, even she is a child, acts like a mother.

does it exist the special symbols on our body for practice yoga?

Guruji: no, we were created perfect enough.

why we obey in fifth one only about married man and woman?

Guruji: this is the only way not to produce bastards. For yogi this is enough. Back to Mahabharat and see what could happen.

what will happen if the child will be created artificially?

Guruji: definitely the child will be different. He will not have the emotional rate for his parents. The child will have psychological problems.

…you should not marry a girl you love. You should marry a girl who loves you. Then you will be happy for life.

…21 st century belongs to girls. They power will continue to increase and they will dominate even in politics. Men are make this world like a hostel; when the woman begin to dominate – it will be like home.

…I think you must live at least for 10000 years – only after that time a little understanding will develop. This much time is needed. That’s why it’s useful to be immortal – to develop the understanding.

how connected Lucifer, satan and devil?

Guruji: I think here is a lot of confusion – when I read about it. Any spirit or ghost, possessing human body, was called devil. And Lucifer is a different story.

what is the connection between islam, christianity and judaism?

Guruji: all christians are actually worshipping jude as son of god. Jesus Christ was a jude – Joshua. Old testament in bible belongs to judes, jesus Christ was jude and his followers begin to name themselves as Christians, that is set in history. All these three are branches of Judaism.

WOMEN ARE CATALYSTS

Helen became the catalytic agent for the great war. Draupadi also – catalyst for the great war. Just look at the whole history – there are many examples. Ladies always inspire something.

Why are women catalysts?

Guruji: They are representing Adi Shakti – that’s why.

Do there exist examples when the knowledge of the yoga path was flowing through women?

Guruji: Even in Yoga Vashishtha you will find such examples. And the decline of vedic time came also because of Shakti.

Q : we just discussed that some people are too much attached to their parents and some are personally decide where to go and what to do?

Guruji : destiny and effect of the karmas. It can be seen in the chart also. You must see the situation of the 4 th lord and 10 th lord and your own luck also.

If the parents are carrying placenta – the children will always remain attached to them.

Q : it is like a ritual?

Guruji : it is like affect.

Q : it’s so egoistic from the parents point of view?

Guruji : they are care about their children. It is an evolution of the family.

Q : don’t You think that the person without great attachment becomes much more strong?

Guruji : it’s not necessary – while living at home you can become very strong. Again it depends on your destiny – for what you have come down.

but to know our spirit why should we live with family instead of living alone?

Guruji: you will need to be alone from time to time. Everybody needs his or hers space. You can not be with people all the time. You need to have your private space also you need to communicate with other spirits. What are your family members? The other spirits. What is society? All behavior of the spirits everywhere. You can not say – this is a worldly thing and this is spiritual thing; where you will draw the line? You remove spirit – dead body can not behave, dead body can’t do business, dead body can’t love. Always remember: it is the spirit inside your body, which is doing everything, experiencing everything. Communicating with others also means spirit-to-spirit communication. Of course, you will need to be alone from time to time to recover from stress which communication may bring. But communication with friends and with very open-minded person will actually give you a lot of strength and energy and understanding will also come. So just open your heart and that’s it.

but it is possible to spend all your life in communication with other spirits without any progress

Guruji: until unless some competent person is dare to guide you. But I see so much approach from the western – “I will do it, I can do that” etc., - everybody needs guidance from time to time. I would like to ask any person that is saying “ I know enough to do that” – was he in a situation to decide which school he will go? Or did he started to learn on his own? Everybody needed help. So there is no harm for asking for help. Just you need to find a competent man or woman who can teach you. Oh, don’t look at me so, I’m not competent enough, I’m just putnik on the way to spirituality, so be my sputnik – let’s discover things together. Followers are dangerous people. Friendly travelers is always welcome. From the startrek: to go, where no one has go before!

Somebody recently asks me, what is the difference between sex and making love. The answer is very simple that any man and woman or boy and girl – any person can make sex but only lovers can make love. And that difference will always remain.

I’ve never see any porn so far. And what I hear – I don’t want to see.

Q: but god is seeing porn everywhere in the world.

Guruji: he is trying to discover love among all the sex. This is what he is trying to find out. Genuine lovers are making love, not sex.

UPADESH FROM GURUJI

YOUR WIFE IS NOT YOUR PROPERTY!

I’ve seen lots of people, who actually treats

their wives as person.

The moment she is married to you - you think

she is your property!

You should continue to treat her as a person!

And another point I’ve noticed in so many marriages: when you are proposing or wooing a someone that she should married you, You are always at the best of your behaviour you are well dressed all these things.

Yes. But after marriage this thing changes.

So for a very successful marriage, You should always remain at the best of your behaviour!

It goes for ladies also.

Think on that!

BEFORE MARRIAGE AND AFTER

GURUJI ABOUT DIVORCES

Guruji, your opinion,why is so many divorces

are happening all around the world?

Guruji: Well, I am a simple unmarried man, but I’ve observed many married couples, maybe hundreds and thousands, and I noticed that:

before marriage, when they are meeting each other courting each other, they are at the best of their behaviour, they are dressing up and very happy to see each other, Immediately after, the behaviour disappears.

So for a successful marriage I think that every day, you must have the same behaviour as when

you were courting each other.

Always remain romantic!

Always at your best dress!

Always your best behaviour !

And marriage will work like magic !

Think on that!

28. THIS IS THE GREAT WAY

could Adi Shakti like embodied in the form of Parvati gave her own experience of the great path?

Guruji: probably.

what is the peculiarities of the path of women in yoga?

Guruji: they are more sensitive than man – everybody will agree to that.

I have very strong emotions to my mother. I’m worrying every time if something could happen to her health; I think every child wants his mother to live long. How I can prepare myself that one day she will be no more?

Guruji: by accepting the truth. Prepare yourself. One day everybody is going to go – just accept this fact. Be with her the very good friend – as long as she is there. Instead of spending your time worrying about her departure – give her a good time.

is it important to be connected with the roots and the family lineage?

Guruji: you cannot change your genetics; it will enhance your family line. Whatever wisdom you will attain, whatever level of evolution you will attain – it will enhance your family line.

but Matsyendranath’s family declined him?

Guruji: even then: if they were not declining him – he wouldnever become the disciple of Shiva.

then the question is: his tapas and all his wisdom – it affects his parents?

Guruji: 100%! But it was part of his destiny. It turned to be the best thing which could happen to Matsyendranath.

but their motive was bad?

Guruji: whatever – it turned out to be extremely good.

HOME

Arrow of inspiration hits you – expression flows.

I will say that home is the best place and you should be creative enough to create a very good home for you. Only then when you’re at home, relaxed, some spiritual growth is possible. Not when you’re travelling all around to find something. If we cannot make even our home good – or the place where we live – no spiritual progress will coming your way.

By travelling only some inspiration may come. Maybe by travelling all over the world finally you will realize the beauty of your home. I found the home – so I’m not travelling anywhere now. When you want to learn things – you need to go somewhere. But then come back.

That time I was living in my farm, and first thing I did – lift him like there and then we begin to talk.

When I’m seeing the priest in airport or train station every time the question is coming to my mind: madam, is it proper to travel in such condition?

how the pregnant woman must practice?

Guruji: as long as she can do it. Her practice will have the direct effect on her child. All the benefits of the practice he will receive. This is very spiritual time.

I’ve read that yogis must have children only if they very want – is it true?

Guruji: I will say – if you want it so why not.

maybe some highly developed soul come to my future child.

Guruji: probably. I’ve seen many children of my disciples and friends – majority of them are intelligent and very sensitive and artistic as well. Not ordinary children are coming.

Guruji: yes, but wherever padmini is appeared – there is going the great war because of them. Somehow they trigger that. And the last padmini was local queen, and one musalman just saw her – he was so impressed by her beauty – then he attacked. And all his people began the jihad – when their king is going to war, they must be or win or be killed. All the queens actually jump into fire. That was the end of padmini. Wherever you here about some great war – be sure that some padmini is there. In Mahabharata time it was more than one padmini – and see what was happened.

can we say that realized yogini is chitrini?

Guruji: kakini and chitrini are the best. They actually support yoga. They have certain powers – inherent natural powers. They even can not realized it, but when they live near yogi – somehow the yoga practice go very high. Simple their presence is enough.

so woman is very important for the yogi?

Guruji: woman is important because your body was created through a woman. So if the right type of divine woman will be near you – your yoga practice will be very high. It is the biggest support system what yogi can have.

Shakti?

Guruji: yes, it is Shakti.

every time I hear that the woman are not so high as a man

Guruji: this is religious, not a yogic point of view, remember that. All religions were there to downplay the woman, because all of them were afraid of the woman’s power.

do you ever seen chitrini?

Guruji: I’ve seen, yes. Only one criteria: in her presence your yoga practice will improve. That’s the point. So you look around and see, whose yoga practice is good – definitely chitrini is around him. When your mind is open up, you have fantastic ideas, great perceptions, very deep understanding of so many things simply in her presence. And if your practice is going down, your mind become very narrow – be careful, something is wrong. Someone presence is not good. Your woman definitely is not chitrini. But it’s for yogi; for the worldly man it’s fine. When chitrini is there – the yoga practice will go very high, for the man and for them also.

where we can read more about chitrini?

Guruji: not so much information about kakini and chitrini. It remains the yogic secret.

Today You said that divinity came to humans and before humans there was nothing; because rakshasas, asuras and giants were there. But I think that even a small particle is very powerful; and if we can start a reaction inside this particle – we start to have a power?

Guruji: Of course, yes.

So size is not important in this case?

Guruji: (laughing) In this case.

I mean Ravana was saying that he isn't afraid of humans – because they're too small.

Guruji: They were small; but Parabrahman Parameshwar himself had to come as a human – to fight with Ravana: that shows us the standard of Ravana.

But if we take female goddesses, divinity is not coming to humans: Shakti is Shakti – like she was thousands years before like she is now?

Guruji: I t is written in Mahabharat, that every female represents Shakti; and their special qualities are mentioned in Gita. Simply by ignoring them and running away from them – nobody can get self-realization or wisdom or whatever. And as we believe in India: the mother is the first Guru. So if the woman is the first Guru – how can you run away from your Gurus?

THE WOMEN AND YOGA

The women can keep the secrets: the biggest of the secrets – they can keep. Many families I have seen – some special knowledge and rituals goes from mother to daughter and so on. Many families we have seen: men are not even aware of that.

You remember the story from Tripura Rahasya – about queen Hemalekha and king Hemachuda? This tradition – when queens were also into secret knowledge – was it lost for some time?

Guruji: This tradition was always there. Because they don’t show off – so we think it’s not there; but it is always there.

This is the most popular argument from people who are reading the translations only: that all the yoga postures and techniques are only for men? Guruji: N o, same for women. The influence of religion is too much on the mind of a normal human being: when you’re thinking of starting a spiritual life – you start thinking of becoming a monk. But that is not the true idea: Babaji gave yoga to normal people. And we need to think about that reason. From another point of view, which I discussed already: that was the safest and surest way to give this yoga to ladies also. As we can agree – that for a girl it’s a pretty dangerous thing to explore the jungle, to go to the cave of the sadhus… but in this program they can learn it with her husband or children- sons, brothers, whatever: they can learn it safely. Maybe it was the only certain way to reach out to the ladies. We need to consider this very seriously. What I see – girls are doing very-very good. And by nature they are more spiritual – spiritually aware.

Guruji, do You know the examples in history when ladies were reaching samadhi?

Guruji: Many. Also you need to consider a very big fact: ladies are giving birth to men, who are achieving samadhi. You cannot say that they are nobodies. And they themselves achieve samadhi – even immortality. What about Babaji’s sister? What about Queen Menavati? Gargi – there are many names. Two ladies with Matsyendranath. If you’re running from ladies in the name of spirituality – you’re running away from yourself. You cannot go bloodless. And you need to awaken the woman power, who is sleeping in your navel. Even Kundalini is a female.

Guruji, what do You think about feminism? Who is struggling for female rights?

Guruji: Why are they struggling for female rights? They are always right. So what’s the problem? (laughing)

Now their activities are almost like hate for the men.

Guruji: Maybe personally they have suffered a lot from men – it is just a reaction to that.

Castaneda has a quote: that women can be a magician – but don't want; and men want to be – but cannot?

Guruji: But then the magic of women is already working in this world – whether they are magicians or not. When the man is a child – he is just holding the skirt of the mother and following her; then another female takes over.

how the male yogi can get woman’s energy in his practice?

Guruji : to get the woman’s energy is the question of the day. You can get a woman – but the energy of a woman is impossible to get. I think if you really care of that woman and in turn that woman really loves you and cares about you – then it will enhance your practice, no doubt about it.

the mental level is important?

Guruji: if you love her and she loves you – who cares about the mental level? She must be open- minded – then you will feel more comfortable in her presence.

so the man and woman must have the same interests – like yoga, for example?

Guruji: it’s not a question of the same interests – it’s a question of the open mind and open heart. They should feel good and happy together and the feeling of genuine friendship should also be there. Sharing yoga interests is not a criteria. If mind is open – they will share each other consciousness also.

I think to win – or let’s say to be the part of the woman’s heart is a very difficult achievement for any man.

I think it’s great achievement for a woman also?

Guruji: probably. But most of the questions comes from the men. Men are more fragile and sometimes women are emotionally stronger than men. Women are delivering men – and pass most of bad emotions on them and keep the good ones themselves.(laughing)

I remember that you were telling that chai is Shakti; is it good replacement of a woman for a yogi?

Guruji: chai – of course, why not? But a woman will always remain important. When a man brings you chai – feeling is different. But when a woman is bringing you chai – feeling is better.

to fulfill spiritual desire – and you will be always loved?

Guruji: every desire man is saying is spiritual( laughing) to bring the spirit in the physical world

what if you are in relations with some woman but because your mind is mostly on this – you practice becomes worse? What to do?

Guruji: this is the real test for the man and real yogi. You should be brave and bold. I will say – when it is good relationship with the woman, she is really supports a man and she has certain signs physically also – it enhance your practice to a very high level. From the beginning.

what is physical signs?

Guruji: search for that.

maybe it’s easier to say “no” and continue to do practice like it was before?

Guruji: don’t be so afraid. Having woman as a friend will not stop your progress. But if she is always nagging you, shouting at you and creating unnecessary argument – then it is a problem.

THE OLD HOME WILL NO LONGER BE THERE

when we was in some karmic relationship with someone – like bad or heavy karma following us; if during the communication we couldn’t untie the knot of karma and one is dyeing – could the other, who is alive, somehow untie this knot?

Guruji: but is it so necessary to untie the knot? Is it necessary – if person died anyway? You cannot remove him from your memory. Untying will be possible if you will be able to remove this person from your imagination absolutely. Otherwise he will live in your memories. Why you’re trying to untie something? Accept the fact and move on.

if you’re planning to reincarnate and back home?

Guruji: where is home? We cannot even come back home we lived when we were children. Those people are not there – which made us feel at home; the place is no longer looking the same – so which home we’re trying to back to? It is better to move and to create your own home somewhere

TO WIN THE WOMAN’S HEART

what is the role of the woman in yogi’s life?

Guruji: women play a very important role in yogi’s life. First thing – yogi is born of woman. It means his body was created inside a woman, whom he called mother. Also this planet we called Mother Earth, Mother Nature – they are all women. Their support is extremely important to reach the certain level or achieve certain things in spirituality. That’s why yogi said that Adi Shakti is almighty. I think the best example is Shiva: when he got love from Adi Shakti and they merge together people start to call him Ardhanarishwar. Nobody is calling him Ardhapurusheshwar. The support of Adi Shakti, blessings of Adi Shakti – all women are representing Adi Shakti; so their good will is extremely important. And good will doesn’t mean forcible will; it should come from the woman’s heart. I’ve been observing: you can forcibly possess a woman – by marriage or by force, anyway; but to win over her heart is a very-very great achievement. This is what I think.

you should have the right attitude to the women?

Guruji: it’s the very complicated thing to actually decipher – how to be with woman, but the simplest thing is come to my mind: to get the real good will from the woman’s heart is the highest achievement for everyone. Every yogi should try for that.

I will say with all my devotion and respect to Baba Ji Maharaj, Baba Ji Maharaj gave, I will not say equal because this equal treatment sounds pretty much insulting to me, respectful treatment to all the women. Before that, this yoga or any secret mystical practices were denied for women. And I think our Guru, Baba Ji Maharaj, gave this opportunity, or rather gave this Yoga to ladies also and men also. So I think most of the, let's say, in the name of celibacy, they have been inserted too much for centuries and maybe even more than centuries. But Shiva was

the first group of yoga and we need to remember he appeared as Ardha Narishwari. Or we can even say that Shakti appeared as Ardha Purusheshwari. They are half men half women and we cannot say which is actually dominating. So they are equal. So by ignoring the half portion of Shiva, I don't suppose Shiva is going to be pleased if we continue to worship of him and keep ignoring the other side of him. So I bow down to my Guru Babaji again and again that he respectfully gave the other half of Shiva because every woman is representing Adi Shakti. So they should be respected and our parampar treat them with respect. Thank you.

[About eve-teasing, if you see someone doing that, should you interfere, etc.]

“Only if you can beat the eve-teaser. If you can get beaten, it’s better to keep quiet (laugh). It’s only teasing in the worst case, there’s no physical assault. You should be aware of your position – there’s no point in unnecessarily acting like a hero. If you see a physical assault, make a lot of noise and start shouting for police – that’ll be enough to scare them away. The situation is not all that bad [in Indian trains]. You should learn to ignore comments like that, or tackle them with humor. Otherwise you’ll be dealing with felony all the time! (laugh)”

Children.

… you just find Sagittarius ascendant or Leo ascendant – that’s it. If the planetary situation is strong, then the spirit will comes. Otherwise shivaratri doesn’t mean much. Also the name will have direct effect on a child.

Q: is it a good idea to choose child’s name before his birth or better to choose it after?

Guruji: you can decide before. You will have enough time to choose. Surname will also have some meaning. It is like a stamp of the court. From indian point of view, father surname will carry. It will go by tradition. Mother is already save the genetic records of the father – so give the stamp of the father to child.

Q: if we don’t want to choose religion for the child, how we can protect him?

Guruji: I will make a statement, that every child, born free in this world is a Hindu by birth. They are baptizing to other religions after. When somebody simply taking birth and has no baptizing – he will be Hindu, free, free thinker. Because they are my disciples – their children are also under my protection.

Q: can he wear rudraksha?

Guruji: of course.

Q: how many months or years the child needs this protection?

Guruji: I think we need protection all over our lives.

Q: can the pregnant woman be at the crowded places?

Guruji: this I will not recommend, because in a crowded places so many people are breathing; their breathe have so much information and disinformation is coming out with their molecules, and she will have to breathe them. It may have the direct effect on the child’s psychology. It is better to avoid it, if you can. It is better always not to look into the eyes. Eyes are index of the mind of any person. If it is a good person – it’s ok, but if it’s a bad person and you make the eye contact – he can start interest in you. It is better to avoid it anyway.

Q: can pregnant woman be at smashan?

Guruji: of course. In where Guru lives, not any other smashan.

Q: what should we do at the time of upbringing and education of children?

Guruji: you should try your best, but also don’t try to keep them too antiseptic. Bring them up in the natural way. Introduce the child to the nature, show him nature, let him play in dust and mud, expose him in everything in the world.

Q: is it ok to beat, punish a child?

Guruji: yes, if it requires. You have to remember – the child, who is taking birth is not such accomplished and wise man, he just recently expose to the world. So he will need some training.

Q: what in your opinion is the best way to develop child’s mind at most and prepare him to the practice of Kriya in future?

Guruji: let the parents be the best example for the child. For a child the father and mother are the greatest of heroes. So whatever they will do sincerely – child will take it on. Let them be the example.

Every man remains a child lifelong and every woman is always a mother even if she is a child.

While paying respect to women, even this is enough to say that their body is such great field, which performs the great task of manifesting an unmanifested soul by means of physical body.

Desirous of making an abode, people make houses and pass away.

No mistake has ever been conducted deliberately. An act, which is done after full deliberations, is found to be a mistake on afterthought.

If you observe that in someone’s family the housewife is time and again in altercation with her spouse, throws invectives and her tension is growing dangerously high, then it should be understood that she is in love with someone else, and considers her spouse to be responsible for not reaching him. In this manner she is only expressing her frustration in love by targeting her husband and his progeny born to her.

Disbursing joy or sprouting gloom in a family are both ordinary tasks for a woman.

Any women, merely for rearing children cannot be ordained as respectable. Her respectability is established only when extent of her success in bringing out the best attributes of the personality of her children is evaluated.

A woman who is deep in love with her spouse alone can disburse delight. A women who unwillingly accepts a person as her spouse is lost in someone else’s dreams and feels satisfied in making her husband’s life miserable.

Scanning of the entire history reveals that a married woman who fails in virtue invariably produces children who ruin that family.

Nobody can claim with confidence that the person being introduced as his father is indeed his father. Only his mother knows who his father is.

If you find that a particular family is facing a spell of failures and miserable lifestyle, inference is that there is a question mark in the family lineage in the near past. More specifically, there ought to be a child born in previous three generations who is born not to the father said to be his.

One, who is not capable of winning the heart of a woman, advances to attempt rape.

Every act of rape has at its root mainly an inferiority complex arising out of lack of sexual power.

A complete man is always seen to behave naturally and gracefully with women. Because he does not suffer form any frustration arising out of inferiority complex related with his manliness.

It is enough for giving tension to a person to be informed by his wife, sister, mother, daughter or female friend that someone is staring at them.

If you find a man to be unnecessarily revile towards women and full with frustrations, or a husband to be resentful towards his spouse for nothing, it is a sure indication of lack of vitality in him. Or straightway he has grave doubts about his sexual strength. Lack of sexual strength causes extreme frustration in him, which in turn is expressed as revilement and misconduct towards women. Many amongst the commoners in the society have been observed by myself to be fearful because of this weakness that their partner may establish an affair with some body.

It is commonly said that women are very envious and perhaps they are envious too and yet I shall assert that envy of women is very much puny compared with that of men. Envy of men has resulted in wars, which could put a question mark on the future existence of human beings.

Some so-called modern scholars, who have learned from ancient scriptures that women have eight times extra sexual desire, influenced by their inferiority complex due to lack of potency are found to misbehave with them. Perhaps they don’t realize that the one who has manifested this universe has done injustice to none. If women have eight times extra sexual desire it is but a God’s gift to them for bearing labor pains.

No sperm could so-ever see his creator until it does not, with the help of ovum of a woman or mother acquire the form of his creator, i.e. only after taking birth in the womb of a mother can it know who his father is. Perhaps the knowledge of god might also be coming in this manner only.

Someone asked why men are attracted towards women. The basis of male’s attraction towards female lies in the race of his sperm towards an ovum for protecting its existence. It has this knowledge while racing agitatedly towards an ovum that a woman alone can provide a basis for its protection. It becomes calm soon after meeting an ovum and from here begins the next phase of its development by the mother. This only is the basis of male attraction towards female because only through her medium is the continuity of his existence (that is lineage of his progeny) on the earth assured.

Common people expect very high standard of moral conduct from widowed women and bereaved husbands. Those who make such high expectations probably do not realize that a widow is a woman and a bereaved husband is a man. Hence their moral conduct would be similar to any other man or woman. Age, surroundings and circumstances do not influence his/her morality. To make unduly high expectations from them is inhuman.

Presently it is indeed a great achievement for a common man to be respected by his spouse.

For majority of people it is an achievement to earn parenthood and to grow old.

Sexual attraction or mutual affection between men and women is endowed upon them by the almighty to honor them with parenthood. Those who call men and women in mutual affection as immoral beings fail to realize that they are desperate only to become parents. The only thing is that they haven’t yet understood this.

The anger arising due to frustration of not making great attainment in life, no one knows why a person directs against his children. And while doing this he forgets that his children are the result of his owns acts. Instead of expressing revilement, if he were to analyze his shortcomings and educate his children accordingly; perhaps his children would develop as per his aspirations.

Old age should be respected for the experience associated with it, but if an old man expects to be respected merely because he has grown old, then be sure that he has grown up only physically but on the test of experience he in only a child.

Excerpts from the Commentary

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Death is that frontier through which, the Great man who has developed his consciousness beyond all limits transcends from his physical limited existence to become Infinite Himself.

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Female body is created completely for the purpose of motherhood - it is this great body which carries out the great task of manifesting an unmanifested consciousness through the medium of a physical body.

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The body which at one time was the sole support of our life, both before our birth and after it - to be not fascinated by that female body is infact, a matter of surprise.

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